For beginners, flirting can be overwhelming.
With so many resources available online, it can be difficult to grasp even the basic concepts and science behind it. From eye contact to arranging a meet-up, mastering the art of flirting almost requires a degree!
We’re here to help! Here are a few things to take away with you that are universally relevant:
Stay True to Yourself
When meeting someone for the first time, it’s easy to make sh*t up because you’re not going to see him or her again, right?
It’s a small world. You just never know if the person you’re talking to online ends up being your boss, or worse, a future in-law! Stay true to yourself and speak the truth to avoid misunderstandings.
Safety Comes First
So you meet this charming young man with a bright smile, sharp suit and a sports car to match his swagger. What’s the catch?
Someone who is too perfect and straight out of a fairytale is probably just that — a fairytale. He could just be pretending what you perceive him to be.
Or worse. He could be a con artist or fake.
Either way, you should probably move onto the next eligible bachelor. If it’s too good to be true, it probably is.
The Most Obvious Choice is Not Always the Best Choice
We all have a mental checklist of what we’re looking for in a person. Successful? Check. Attractive? Check. Financially stable? Check. Good family? Check. Single? Check. Dog? Check.
While it’s good to have high expectations of people, it’s not always about ticking off your must-have list. Sometimes the best matches come in unconventional packages.
This is where your gut comes in.
Sometimes we are attracted to people for inexplicable reasons. When that happens, just play it out and don’t overthink it. Even if your type tends to be the dark-skinned, sporty type, there’s no reason for you not to go out with a blonde bookworm. Love has no type.
Trust your instincts, keep your mind open and your heart guarded… for now.
Sometimes It’s Not Meant to Be
Flirting shouldn’t be too much work.
If the person you are interested in likes you back, that’s where the magic really happens. But constantly staring at them, orienting yourself around them or secretly watching them from afar…
Don’t become THAT person. It’s okay to be persistent, but there’s a fine line between persistent and downright creepy.
If it’s meant to happen, it will. Let things flow naturally and everything else will fall into place.
Go Out and Get It
If you want to flirt like a pro, you have to get out there and do it.
Seriously, if you want her, what’s stopping you? Go get her and make her notice you. The worst thing that can happen is you’ll get turned down. It’s going to sting at first, but at least you tried.
Some people stress too much over whether or not they should approach someone and try to flirt.
It’s not that big a deal.
Those who fear flirting are the ones who never get the girl simply because they don’t have the guts to try! So puff out that chest, put a smile on your face and get going.
You have the tools, now it’s time to put them to good use.