Good riddance to the days where women would wait for men to approach them! These days, you have control over whether you want to be the approachee or approacher. Use it to your advantage.
Of course it’s always a great feeling when someone approaches you. But most guys think it’s really cool when a woman approaches them.
So how does a girl flirt these days?
Wait, what? How do you flirt without flirting? The answer is you don’t flirt at all… in the beginning.
Talk to him like you would anyone. He’s just a friend, another person in the room. Someone you’re friendly with but not romantically interested in. Except you are. If he suspects you’re into him right away, he might clam up and embarrass himself by being too self-conscious.
By making him believe you’re innocently chatting about inconsequential matters, you’re putting him at ease. You can make your intentions clearer later.
Once he’s gotten over his nerves and opened up to you, playfully steer things in a more intimate direction. Start by asking him if he wants to sit somewhere quieter, or move a little closer to him. Again, start small and gradually build up to more obvious advances.
Also, did you know that smiling is good for your love life? Ditch the frown and show off those pearly whites. This simple gesture is enough to set even the most anxious person at ease. Check out our guide on Flirting Styles Men Adore for more techniques.
Highlight Your Strong Points
You’re a catch. Anybody would be lucky to have you, so act like it! Arrogance and confidence are two different things, and while the latter is preferred, sometimes a bit of arrogance helps keep the other party on his toes.
You want to show him that you’re a strong, independent woman. You don’t need him. He needs you. If he’s intelligent, he’ll wine and dine you and sweep you off your feet.
Did you know that you can flirt with just your lips? You can bring any man to his knees with just a few playful bites and a little pout. Now that’s power!
Always Conduct Yourself With Dignity
It’s one thing to dress like a sex kitten. But never cheapen yourself just to catch another’s attention. Physical attraction is only skin deep. Aim for more. When you command respect through the way you carry yourself, others will follow suit.
Men will come and go. The right one will arrive when you are ready. He may or may not be the first guy you meet. He might be #25 or #125. Regardless of when your time has come, always conduct yourself with dignity. To give you an idea of what type of guy to steer clear of, check out which ones you shouldn’t sleep with.
Hide Your Handbag
Yep, you read that correctly. A designer handbag is a flirting deterrent! We have countless nuggets of information under the Flirting Resources section of our site, so be sure to read through all our Tips for Girls so you don’t miss anything!