Are You Undermining Your Relationship By Flirting Outside Marriage?
When you really think about it, it is a daunting prospect to commit yourself to someone for the rest of your life. You will never again have another first date, you will never again have another first kiss and you will never wake up to someone new and exciting lying in bed beside you.
As with any marriage, you may get stuck in a routine that will have you craving excitement. That in itself is not dangerous, it is when you look for the excitement outside of your marriage where problems can arise.
That hot guy at the gym or the pretty girl at the office may seem like an attractive prospect – a cheeky flirt with them brightens up you day and makes you feel good about yourself, so where is the harm? You aren’t planning on taking things further and the thought of getting physical with them hasn’t even crossed your mind. But flirting outside marriage may be harmful in ways you don’t realise…
- It’s Energy You Could Put Into Your Marriage – You are actually putting valuable flirty energy into someone who isn’t your spouse. If you want more excitement in your life, get it out of your marriage and use all of that flirty energy on your partner. Send them a cheeky text that will have them racing home to you.
- It Weakens Your Commitment – You justify your flirty behaviour by telling yourself it puts you in a better mood at home, which your spouse gets to enjoy. But, it is really fair to get your best feelings from someone other than your partner – the reason you even justify your behaviour at all is because you know you shouldn’t be doing it. You aren’t doing it so you will be in a good mood, you are doing it to boost your ego – you are giving the best of yourself so someone other than your spouse. It doesn’t shoe much commitment does it?
- The Point Of No Return – It may only be a matter of time before your flattery at the flirtation gets physical. Once that has happened there is no going back, you are a cheat and you have cheated on your spouse. You will go to bed a cheat and wake up a cheat the next day. You made that choice even though you knew there were other options available – don’t take that step unless you are willing to live with what you have done.
I’m not saying that once you are married, you should never flirt with anyone else ever again. Just don’t become invested in it, keep it casual and remember what is waiting for you at home.
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