According to the ex-girlfriend of Swedish love machine, Sven-Goran Eriksson (he was England soccer manager for a while), Englishmen can’t flirt worth a damn. The stereotype that Englishmen are embarrassed and awkward around women they find attractive, has been confirmed by Nancy dell’Olio. The Italian lawyer claims that Englishmen are poor flirts because they are “frightened of feelings”, as well as being caused by their relationship with their mothers, which is a polite love rather than a passionate one.
On her arrival in England, on of the first thing Nancy noticed, was that English men were hopeless at flirting. She told The Spectator Magazine: “Foreigners sometimes imagine that the idea of an embarrassed anxious Englishman is just a joke, but my unfortunate encounters with British men have led me to understand that the stereotype is true.”
Nancy has even split English men to distinct flirting groups – there is the “eccentric charmer” who relies on alcohol for his slurring seduction, and the “bumbling inarticulate Hugh Grant sort”, who is somewhat terrified of women although with an endearing shyness. However, Nancy is warming up to Englishmen and their own brand of charm and subtlety.
So how can the Englishman and any other nervous flirts out there, get over their anxiety to engage in some cheeky banter with the person of their dreams…
- Take A Deep Breath – When you are nervous your breathing rate increases and becomes more shallow and no one is gong to be attracted to the guy panting and wheezing in the corner, if anything they may call the police. So take a few deep breaths, which will help to calm those nerves and switch of that pesky ‘flight of fight’ response, leaving you ready to flirt.
- Switch The Negative For The Positive – If you go into a flirtation with a head full of negative thoughts you are already doomed and may as well head home for your ready meal for one. Instead of automatically thinking the worst, remind yourself of all the positive things about you and focus on these strengths when going in for the flirt.
- Fake It To Make It – If all else fails, just fake the confidence, now this may sound ridiculous given that self-confidence probably isn’t what you’re known for. But there are ways that you can give you a much needed boost of confidence; wear clothing that makes you feel good about how you look and look after yourself by eating well and hitting the gym to make that boost in confidence all the more permanent.
So all you ‘Hugh Grant types’ head out into the world and get flirting.
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