I Want You to Notice Me
When a relationship first begins, infatuation is the order of the day – you only have eyes for each other and can’t spend enough time together. There is no saying on how long this infatuation will last, but it is an almost certainty that the intensity of the feeling will eventually fade into something more enduring.
However, it is easy to feel under appreciated and somewhat unattractive when the flame doesn’t burn so bright, which can lead to a need for attention. When your sex life is less than it could be and the complements aren’t flowing as freely as you would like, it is so easy to be tempted by the flirtatious co-worker or fit trainer at the gym.
So should you engage in a little flirtation to make your partner jealous, in the hope that they will realize your still desirable?
A Bad Move
Flirting with another to attract the attention of your partner is not a wise decision. You could be hoping just to ignite a spark, to instead find your relationship in tatters, following your betrayal.
Relationships are hard work; once the initial excitement has cooled you really do have to learn to be a good partner. Men can find it difficult to remember the importance of the sweet, romantic gesture, while women need to find a way to let the minor gripes go.
Instead of creating another problem in solution of another, talk to your partner and try to get to the root of the issue, the decreased attention. Is your partner insecure or struggling with the status quo of life in a relationship, or are they simply so secure in your relationship that they don’t feel a need to sweep you of your feet…they are just happy to be with you.
It is a problem that many relationships encounter at some point, it just takes a little effort to reconnect…so instead of looking for flirtation elsewhere, make time to flirt with your partner.
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