What do men really mean? Guys can be such an enigma.
Guys can say a lot of things when they are trying to make a new romanitic connections. The chances are, you have heard all the lines many times before, but never really knew what they were actually trying to say to you. You know they are flirting with you, or at least you think they are flirting with you, but you wish they would just say whst they mean, instead of a standard line.
Well, here are some of the things guys say when they are getting their flirt on, and what they probably mean…
What They Say: “Your eyes are really beautiful.”
What They Mean: “I think you’re hot. I find you seriously sexually attractive, but if I tell you that I think your breasts are out of sight, you’re probably going to throw your dink in my face. Even if I do mean it as a complement.”
Men are always looking for ways to complement women they find attractive without coming across as creepy. Complementing the eyes is a safe option that is polite and non-offensive – he thinks you’re hot, but he doesn’t want to scare you off.
What They Say: “Let’s get coffee sometime.”
What They Mean: “I’m interested in you, but I’m not sure if I’m interested enough to spend an extended amount of time on a dinner date with you. I want to be sure before I splash out on a nice meal.”
He is interested in you, he just wants to spend a little bit more time with you before he committs to an actual date. That extra bit of time may give him what he needs to realise he would like to get to know you better, or realise he is not that interested in seeing you naked. Be grateful he isn’t going to waste your time.
What They Say: “What’s your star sign?”
What They Mean: “I’m either really interested in astrology, or really think that you are and I’m desperately trying to form a connection with you. Also I have seen any romantic movie and seen this incredibly dated chat up line used.”
I don’t know why guys think it is OK to use this terrible line anymore, in a time where horoscopes are widely regarded as nonsense. But, some guys are stuck in their ways and are afraid to try something new incase it causes offense. Yes it is retro, but maybe give this guy a break and move the conversation along.
What They Say: “Would you like a drink?”
What They Mean: “Are you willing to spend the next few minutes with me in eachange for a drink to the cash value of your choice. I would offer you the money to spend the time with me, but I don’t want to treat you like a prostitute. Please don’t accept my offer of a drink if you are not single, as that is just a waste of my time and money.”
For some reason it has become the norm for a uy to offer to essentially pay for someone’s time when trying to flirt? Be fair and at least buy them a drink back, even if you don’t like them in a romantic way, don’t be the person that uses someone for free drinks.
What They Say: “What are you into?”
What They Mean: “You’re looking at me like you hate me and I’m scared to say anything else in case my ego takes another hit, since my Yoda impression went down so poorly. I’m desperately trying to find some common ground, so we can get past this awkward moment.”
Guys can’t read minds you know,. He isn’t going to know on sight what you like and dislike, so he is going to gently prod at subject in the hope of striking up a meaningful conversation that goes beyond small talk. So give him a few points for making the effort, at least he is tryin to get to know you.
So there you have it, what men really mean when they flirt. They may not do it well, but at least they are giving it a go.
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