What is the Science of Flirting?
When you think about it there is some kind of science behind everything – so it stands to reason that there would be a science behind flirting. So, this means that there are some things that you can do to help make you flirting a success and turn that casual date into something a little bit more serious.
It seems like we don’t need those cheesy chat up lines after all – it takes just between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if we like someone, but smooth talking has very little to do with this decision. Here is how we decide our attraction:
- 55% is through body language.
- 38% is through speed and tone of voice.
- Only 7% is through the words said.
It’s in the Eyes
New York psychologist, Professor Arthur Arun has discovered that staring into each others eyes has a powerful impact on how we feel about the other person. During one of his studies, Arun asked two total strangers to reveal intimate details about themselves to each other. After 90 minutes of ‘confessions’ the pair were asked stare into each others eyes for an uninterrupted 4 minutes. Afterwards, many of the couples felt deeply attracted to their ‘partner’ and one pairing eventually married.
In a process known as ‘mirroring’, people who are attracted to one another will subconsciously copy each others gestures. It shows not only that our interest in reciprocated, but that there is a connection. However, this is a phenomenon that is also seen in close friendships, so be careful not to misinterpret the signs of friendship as attraction, it could prove quite awkward.
Studies have shown that if people experience fear on a date they can mistake those feelings as something like love. So dates at a theme park or bungee jumping could turn that flirtation into a relationship.
Read more on the BBC website.
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