How To Handle An On-Off Relationship

Are You Confused By Your On-Off Relationship?

It seems like on-off relationships are all the rage these days, with the likes of Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson, breaking up and getting back together every five minutes. I bet they don’t even know if their relationship is on or not right now…I think they are off, but that could have all changed by the time I have finished this sentence.

Maybe people are inspired too much by the world of celebrity and have come to the realization (accurate or not) that on-off relationships are now the norm. But, they aren’t an easy kind of relationship to be inn, never quite feeling secure with your partner, wondering when the whole thing will blow up once again. Then a few days or few weeks later you have found yourselves in each others arms again, once again waiting for the next blow up.

So how do you handle such a volatile relationship?

•  Every Fight Isn’t The End – If every fight you have results in a breakup, no matter how temporary, it may be time to realize that you’re not quite ready to be in a serious relationship. If every minor disagreement has you changing your Facebook status back to single then you seriously need to re-evaluate.

• Take A Real Break – If your on-off relationship is rather turbulent and always seems to be in an unsettled state, consider taking a real break from your partner. Take 3 months apart, without any contact and if you miss each other after that, then there maybe something there worth investing in. If you don’t think about them that much then you are probably better off alone.

• Is It A Rebound? – The initial period after a breakup is always the hardest; you feel lonely, depressed and like no one will ever love you again. You are in the perfect state for a rebound, and who is the easiest rebound? Your ex of course, and before you know it you’re back in that unstable relationship again. Before you go back there have a think about it, do you really want to be with them, or do you just not want to be alone?

• No Rash Decisions – In the heat of the moment it can be so easy to say or do something without properly thinking it through. Before you know it you’re single, even though it is not at all what you want. Take time to think things through and remember the good times you had before you say “It’s over!”

The sad news is that on-off relationships probably don’t work out in the long run, they are just too turbulent. Stability in a relationship doesn’t mean that the relationship is boring, it just means that it is strong enough that the people in it feel secure enough to really be themselves. Wouldn’t you prefer that to a relationship that is always on eggshells?

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